There are many misconceptions about who goes and at what point to seek the help of a counsellor or psychotherapist. For many people, not being able to find meaning in life or to come to terms with the fundamental human condition can make the world seem like a hostile and indifferent place.
You may have the sense that a problem is not that bad or as extreme as perhaps others may face. Or on the contrary, that the problem or experience is too shameful, embarrassing or impossible to convey and often there is the belief that having some kind of mental health or emotional crisis is a prerequisite for seeing a therapist. We can become adept at managing to live with things in life we believe we cannot change, becoming stuck and cut off from what is important to us.
The motivation to see a professionally trained therapist is highly individual – at times of great distress, maybe a wish to understand negative patterns in your life or to explore a particular dilemma. It may, however, be difficult to simply identify a particular issue, as often all areas of life can be affected. The process of psychotherapy is to try and make sense of your experience, to understand that it is not necessary to accept the choices handed down to you by life as you know it, and to help you find the tools to live more meaningfully.